Ten Unexpected Things Stopping You from Living

Have you ever found yourself on the brink of making that great huge leap forward to better your life, only to have something suddenly drag you back and keep you mired? I have been in precisely this state many times.

Every time this happened to me, I always persuaded myself that the so-called terrible timing or situations just out of my control were the reason behind my retreats and hesitations. In essence, then, I was not the one responsible for every missed possibility.

Of course, I was lying to myself as the truth is usually the only thing stopping you, independent of how hard you attempt to ignore it.

I needed a real wake-up call to at last see or own that I was holding myself back. Although outside events certainly have a role in pulling me back, finally my habits, beliefs, and attitude were the ones keeping me caught and unsatisfied. To be really honest with you, facing this truth was challenging.

I even had many times when I tried to rationalize my way out and attribute my poor luck for every time I missed out on all the chances I would have dearly cherished. But I realized that the more I denied the reality, the longer I was also blocking myself from releasing my greatest potential and leading the life I desired.

Although facing the internal elements that are holding you back can be intimidating, remember that by identifying and embracing them you are giving yourself the ideal chance to turn these obstacles into stepping stones that will enable really significant changes in your life.

I will be revealing with you in this post the habits that really helped me to stay back-off. These behaviors were already so strong in me that I was not aware I was unintentionally severely undermining my success and happiness.

By sharing these practices, I hope you will come to see what is preventing you from realizing the life you want and learn how to get over those obstacles.

Things That Will Always Trip You Back in Life

               

One should start with Oversumming

One of the things holding you back most definitely is overcommitting. Please let me ask you this:, independent of your current level of tiredness, how many times have you answered yes to other people?

I most definitely understand this. Especially to the individuals closest to me, I have always had a tendency of always overstretching myself to other people. Whether or whether I felt tired and depleted didn't really matter; I answered whatever they needed. Saying yes and overcommitting myself seemed to be the best approach.

Doing this proved, to me, that I was dependable and capable. To be very honest with you, doing this was also my means of acceptance and validation search. I thought that I was deserving and valuable as long as I am helping other people.

I never understood that by always saying yes to other people, I was also consistently saying no to my needs, ambitions, and priorities. I had no idea that by overcommitting I would progressively lose awareness of who I was and who I aspired to be. I was drowning in so many chores and obligations not even mine initially.

Should you too be doing this, kindly be aware that overcommitting does not equate success and value. not have to be the person that "does it all." Real achievement and fulfillment do not often follow from overcommitting. often than we would want to acknowledge, it simply causes weariness and burnout.

Saying yes to other people all the time not only makes us overly busy but also wastes our time and energy on activities not really important for us when we could be spending that time on things really important to us.

Often the main cause of our missing out on chances that truly count to us is overcommitting. Setting reasonable limits is quite normal, hence there is absolutely nothing wrong with it.

Establishing reasonable limits is not about being nasty, self-serving, or excluding people. It's about realizing your limits, expressing them, and deciding to guard your tranquility and well-being.

It has nothing to do with driving people away. It is about preserving a sensible, balanced existence.

This excellent piece from LifeHack will teach you how to avoid overcommitting in general.

Obstacles Against Transformation

Many times, people's aversion to change is the reason most of them miss chances and remain mired. With changes, I have never been excellent. be thrilling for some, but it overwhelms and usually scares me.

have so choose to stick to the known and comfortable regardless of my level of unhappiness and unfulfillment. familiar offers predictability that lends stability and control. I understood that opening oneself to change would also expose a lot of questions that would eventually erode my sense of control.

I didn't come to see that life is far too valuable to waste standing still until I was at my lowest. The only way you can really live, grow, and learn is by letting yourself be changed and by stretching outside your comfort zone. Time is short.

Change can be difficult, as I know. It essentially pushes us outside our comfort zones, which finally causes worry and anxiety; but, the more we avoid it, the longer we are also delaying ourselves from realizing our own potential.

Know that change presents chances for development, learning, and fresh experiences that will enable us to realize our greatest possible selves.

you do not have to make drastic adjustments all at once is quite crucial as I know that leaving our comfort zones may be taxing. not have to immediately expose oneself to significant transformations. move in quick, simple steps.

help you to stay with it much more easily and reduce the overpowering and intimidating aspect of it.

Ignoring Psychological Welfare

Taking care of our mental health is most likely the least of our priorities when we have so much going on in our life and all our never-ending to-do lists and never-ending duties demand. times, we neglect even considering it as we think it's not very significant.

I also carried remorse about this. I concentrated all my effort and attention on reaching every target. was the path to a contented and successful life, I kept pushing myself till burnout.

really understood how crucial our mental health is until I was at my lowest and caught in a black hole. health should not be seen as a luxury or something we mark off once a year and then ignore.

Maintaining our mental wellness is absolutely required. Should we ignore it, certainly the effects may be little at first but over time they might become a significant obstacle to our potential and general quality of life. We cannot keep pushing ourselves till we are tired and neglecting all our requirements without thinking about the results.

Please be aware that your mental health counts. Cliché as it sounds, you really cannot pour from an empty cup. By giving your mental health top attention, you not only are looking after yourself but also making sure you are more suited to be there for and aid other people.

Always giving Perfection top priority

I was taught growing up that mistakes and failures were negative things. Mistakes and failures, I felt, were evidence of my worth and ability. Every time I made one, though, I came to feel unworthy and inadequate.

I so naturally tried everything I could to avoid them. I kept seeking excellence. I assumed that perfection indicated that I was deserving, hence I always aspired to be perfect.

Living that life was also quite demanding. Every day seemed like I was drowning in so much strain and anxiety; it was emotionally and psychologically taxing. I was too scared to fail, thus I couldn even start to count the chances I had let pass.

I have built myself up for these unattainable expectations, try my absolute best to be perfect, and when I fall short of that criteria I simply feel even more let down and devastated. Pursuing excellence nonstop made me feel as though I never measured up.

If you are also doing this, kindly let yourself to live and welcome the flaws in life and release the continuous urge to be flawless.

always be illusive. we are, we are all going to fail and you know what? No matter how hard we try to prevent mistakes. alright since it is through those mistakes and setbacks that we develop, grow, become the finest versions of ourselves.

Too Many Self-criticisms

Are you also the hardest critic you could be? am exactly that. For years—or more honestly, I still do this occasionally—I have always been my worst critic. I frequently put myself down and would torture myself over every small error.

Particularly during difficult times in my life, every day I would berate myself for making all these poor choices that brought me to the lowest point in my existence. I reasoned that by doing this I was increasing my own responsibility and driving myself toward betterment in my life.

But what it did was the reverse. Continually berating myself was also gradually erasing my self confidence. I began to mistrust my talents and felt more depressed rather than driven to act.

Please know that you too deserve to treat yourself with the same degree of compassion and care you so freely show your loved ones. One of the most important things I have discovered is that self compassion is not about self indulgence.

Giving someone compassion and understanding does not mean you are accepting mediocrity. Self compassion is realizing your flaws and failures without critical self-loathing.

Giving yourself a safe environment to make errors, learn, and develop can help you to be more driven to pursue your goals and dreams.

Not Seeking Guidance

Most of us desire to solve all of our problems on our own when life becomes tough. This was most definitely me. I used to believe that since this was my issue, hence naturally, I should be the one to fix things in my life.

put on this mask every day, acting as though everything was fine and that I was good among all around me. be honest, I was really terrified to tell anyone what I was going through since I thought would be dragging them down with my troubles.

burden anyone. bear all the weight of all the obligations and difficulties by myself was rather taxing. overload not only paralyze me but some days it just made me feel so depressed and alone.

way, kindly be aware that you will never burden the individuals who really love you. want to be at your side and listen to you as you negotiate trying circumstances in your life.

be aware that seeking assistance does not prove your capacity. It does not make you frail. Actually, it is exactly the reverse. Reaching out and realizing you need support call for a great lot of bravery and will.

Although self reliance is a great quality, I have discovered that believing that we should do everything on our own is definitely nothing but an illusion. You are spared going through everything on your own.

Not only does reaching out and asking for help when we need it lessens the stress, but it also exposes us to fresh ideas, talents, and viewpoints that can eventually support our personal development.

Pursues Approval

One of the things that most likely keeps you back in life is always seeking validation and approval from other people. I am not unusual in this regard. I have been and occasionally I still am guilty of people pleasing.

I was so terrified of disappointing the people closest to me, so even if I already felt tired and depleted, I could never say no. I have always thought I am valuable as long as I am helping other people.

I never understood that by always seeking the favor of others, I was also shaping myself in line with their expectations. I was changing myself specifically to fit their expectations.

Living that kind of life was both quite demanding and simply demoralizing. Pursues of other people's validation not only reduced my happiness but also blinded me to who I actually was.

I was also living my life depending on others' approval instead of really building the life I desired by always seeking for theirs. Should you too be guilty of doing this, kindly be aware that your value and worth have nothing to do with the acceptance of others.

You are free to stop constantly proving yourself to them. Your own validation is the only one you will ever need. Your value comes from you. It isn't earned. Just as you are now, you are sufficient.

Bottling Your Feelings

I have never been very vulnerable. Every time I experienced something years ago, my immediate reaction was to flee rather than really allowing time to feel my emotions.

Whether defeated, broken-hearted, or devastated I felt, I would bottle these feelings instead of expressing them believing that ultimately they would all just vanish.

Though in truth I was far from it, I kept presenting this front that nothing truly worried me and that I was absolutely great. I have always thought that sooner or later everything would be good if I simply kept running from what I really felt.

That is not the case, though, quite clearly. Emotions cannot be bottled off; they do not disappear. On the surface, suppressing our emotions seems like a good coping mechanism; yet, over time these suppressed feelings build up and eventually weigh us down and cause us to lead unsatisfied and unhappy life.

first bottling our feelings seems like armor, the truth is that ignoring our emotions will simply prevent us from really recovering. we keep ignoring what we are feeling, we cannot genuinely advance.

in the modern world, emotional stoicism is sometimes seen as strength and that vulnerability marks weakness. think the exact reverse.

lot of power. and feeling all your feelings calls a lot of bravery. not make one weak. is evidence of your fortitude.

results from our letting ourselves process our emotions and sensations. time to feel them helps us to reflect, heal, and finally go forward.

Always Seeking The "Perfect Moment"

Perfect timing has always been something I think to be important. I have always thought that there is always the ideal timing for anything. Every time I came across chances I truly desired, instead of snatching them straight away I would make sure everything was ready and that indeed it was the ideal moment.

time, the belief actually felt appropriate until I reached my lowest point in life, when everything around me was disintegrating. knew I wanted to change my life around, but I didn't want to fall for the same error of pursuing something I neither loved or even liked.

wanted to follow my passion, I was terrified and thought it wasn't exactly the right time since essentially everything around me was failing. a profound awakening to understand that occasionally in life there is no such thing as a perfect moment.

continue to wait for things to line up before we begin to follow our dreams. simply pass through our hands. most wonderful things happen in unanticipated detours, not all spectacular events follow exactly planned paths.

We have to continually reminding ourselves that no moment will never be exactly perfect even if some could be better than others. Time is passing and life is far too valuable to waste waiting.

Continually postponing pleasure

Having so many things on our plate makes it rather simple for us to slip into the trap of postponing our happiness to some far-off future. For this was me. For years, I was so preoccupied with reaching all of my objectives that I honestly thought I had no time to experience real happiness since I to spend every second of my life verifying items on my to-do list.

be happy when I finally save enough money to pursue my dream," I tell myself, or "I will be happy when I finally find a job that I love or even like."

objectives and striving for them is vital, I have discovered that postponing our happiness is merely depriving us of our opportunity to live every moment life.

fact is, if we keep thinking that the future will somehow bring a more appropriate period for happiness, we will only support the belief that outside events will always determine our happiness.

and enjoyment can be greatly influenced by outside events; yet, we also have to keep in mind that happiness is as much about attitude and decision-making as it about outside conditions.

There will always be unknowns in life; hence, if we keep postponing our enjoyment, we run the danger of completely missing out on happiness, particularly in cases of unanticipated events.

Whether mundane or remarkable, we have to learn to welcome every moment of our life. Doing this will enable us to live a more meaningful and satisfying life in addition to make us happy in daily events.

In conclusion

If you find yourself demoralized right now, realize that you are naturally strong enough to get above whatever is holding you back. Reading this blog post and becoming self-aware already marks the first step.

Though some of these ideas may have been firmly rooted in us for years, please know that they are not insurmount. Know yourself; you will defeat them.

Please remember to treat yourself lovingly and sympathetically throughout this time in your life. Remember that this trip is not straight-forward. When you trip, be gentle with yourself.

And know that I am constantly cheering for you!